Tantrum Troubles – HELP!

So we’ve entered a new phase – tantrumdom. O-M-G. The tantrums that I’m experiencing with my boys, *ahem* with one boy in particular is literally maddening. INSANE. I WANT TO LOCK MYSELF IN A ROOM AND CRY INSANE.

They don’t happen every two seconds but good Lord, when they do they are literally out of control. Micah will throw himself down on the floor and kick/scream. I’m talking a blood-curdling-ear-bleeding kind of scream. It’s awful and I’m not really sure what to do. I feel like he may be too young to be disciplined, but I’m thinking of instituting a time out. When he gets into this tantrum mode, he takes it out on his brother sometimes. He shoves him or tries to hit him in some way. My response is to tap him on the hand and say, “No Micah! Nice!” He immediately breaks out into even crazier hysterics and throws himself on the floor once more. I need him to know that this is NOT okay. He can’t get what he wants because he throws a tantrum. He just can’t.

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He gets into these screaming fits and literally it can make you feel like you’re crazy. This past Saturday while my husband was showing houses, Micah had one of his meltdowns around naptime. He was exhausted but didn’t want to go to sleep. I put him in his crib and he screamed and screamed. I took him out for a bit thinking, maybe he’s not really tired? Nope, he was – laying down on the floor and rubbing his eyes like crazy. Put him back in his crib, he screamed hysterically for quite a bit, I took him out again. We repeated this behavior for a little bit. I know I shouldn’t have taken him out of the crib, but being that my father-in-law was upstairs trying to sleep (he was visiting with us from Puerto Rico) I was pretty much willing to do anything to get him to be quiet.

Finally, I put him back in his crib and CLIMBED IN THE CRIB WITH HIM! You read it right. I CLIMBED IN THE CRIB WITH HIM. A 28 year old woman. In a crib. With a baby. I put his head in my lap and rubbed his head, then realized that was a dumb idea on several levels, especially because when he would fall asleep and I tried to get out – he would wake up again. So I sat in the corner of his crib (STILL LITERALLY IN THE CRIB WITH HIM!) and he fell asleep staring at me. He has been a stage 10 clinger lately. It’s gotten really bad. The thing is – I’m not even home all day. I’m at work, so it’s not like he’s stuck to my side all day.

Welp, this brings me to last night. Last night at 2 am in the morning, homeboy decided to have a screaming fit. This is a rarity at night. Both of my boys typically sleep really well. Well, last night – nope. He started to scream and didn’t stop screaming for an h-o-u-r. By 3 am, I was desperate so I broke my cardinal rule and brought him into the bed. Josiah slept through the entire thing. I brought him into bed and the little lemur stuck to me like glue in bed. Even when I would turn away from him, he would absent mindedly put his little hands in my hair just to have contact. I peed twice holding him because he didn’t want to let me go. When I woke up in the morning, his square little face was grinning at me. My body was screaming – sleep. SLEEP!! Of course at this point, it was time to go to work.

My husband and I are at our wits end. Josiah is really easy-going and chill. Sometimes I feel like Micah gets more attention and for the wrong reason. How does one exactly stop this behavior at this age? Please tell me I’m not alone in this? Please talk to me about tantrums and make me feel better? Do you have any suggestions for us? I know that the Terrible Twos are coming but why is it making an appearance early?! I love my little cutie pies with all of my heart, but I need some wisdom from other mommies. HEEEELLLLPPPPPP. K. Thanks. <3

They’re adorable. When they’re not throwing tantrums.

11 thoughts on “Tantrum Troubles – HELP!

  1. breeowen says:

    Oh you poor thing! I would give time out a go. When he starts to have a melt down/ tantrum explain to him that he will be put in time out ( I use the cot since he can’t escape) so that he can calm down. Tell him you will come and get him when he is calm. Also try and offer a cuddle when he gets angry and try and acknowledge his feelings like “I can see that you are mad because of … , would a cuddle help you feel better?” And if he doesn’t want one then tell him you will give him one when he is ready and calm (can be while he is in time out or whenever if timeout doesn’t work for you). When Arthur was biting I used time out and set a timer. I let him hear the noise it makes and then told him not to bite and that I would be back when the timer goes off. I would only set it for 2 mins but after a week or two he stopped biting. I hope he stops soon for you, I think it’s very normal! Good luck!

    • Tales of a Twin Mombie says:

      Thanks for the suggestions! I am definitely open to anything and any suggestions! I like the idea of the timer so that they can hear the actual noise!

  2. randomsqueaks says:

    I foresee this with V. She’s already strong-willed and does the melting, arm-flailing thing but not to that extent. Yet. I read something yesterday about time outs being hurtful to children (uh, yeah, it’s a punishment) but I’d love to know exactly how we are supposed to raise children to understand and value rules and consequences if we can’t spank and can’t do time outs. Lovingly explaining the situation isn’t helpful when they are in the middle of a tantrum or are too young to understand you.

    • Tales of a Twin Mombie says:

      Yeah! I think in the end, you have to do what is best for your family. Nowadays there is something wrong with everything and if there isn’t, they will find something. I am very much for what works for each family (obviously nothing overboard at all..there are some things that are never acceptable). It’s true, we have to be able to teach our children rules and when they break the rules, their should be consequences to a degree. Thanks for commenting!

  3. Amber says:

    Oh girl, I know this struggle. I have been there, and still experience toddler tantrums daily. I’m a huge fan of Love and Logic Early Childhood Magic, and highly recommend you grab a copy. It’s short, and as a teacher you are probably familiar with many of the L & L approaches. You can skim handouts on their website for free too. Know you aren’t alone, and this too shall pass.

    • Tales of a Twin Mombie says:

      Thank you! I’ve never heard of that so it’s something I would love to research! I am always open to new suggestions and willing to try out different things to find out what works for the family. Plus, I’m kind of obsessed with reading. I will definitely be checking it out!

  4. Tales of a Twin Mombie says:

    I know right?! It makes me laugh when I think about it too. The things a parent will do for their child. Ha! So glad your daughter is not going through that yet, she is ADORABLE!!! Can’t believe how much she’s grown!

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