A month and a half with no social media.

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We are on day 9 of our spending freeze and I am on a month and a half without any social media.

For me, it’s a big deal, because I was on social media pretty often. Instagramming and Facebooking like it was nobody’s business. I started a devotional by Craig Groeschel called “#Struggles: Following Jesus in a Selfie-Centered World” and was really intrigued. Before you dismiss this, it is NOT a devotional about how social media is the devil. Craig Groeschel is the pastor of an online church and his church created The Bible app, so he’s all about it. Anyway, after the devotional I was intrigued so I watched the series. After I watched the series online, I was even MORE intrigued and challenged, so my husband purchased the book for me. It was so eye opening and resonated with so much of what I was feeling about social media! So I decided to take a break from it. I actually read the book AFTER I decided to take the break.

So far it hasn’t been nearly as difficult as I thought it would be. It’s actually been seriously LIBERATING. I’ve been forced to essentially enjoy life without feeling compelled to document every second and upload it, check for comments, likes, feedback, and the like. I’ve been challenged to cultivate genuine relationships outside the sphere of Facebook and Instagram.

Emotionally, I’ve even felt happier. This isn’t surprising, since studies links Facebook to depression, in that people who go on actually feel more depressed after they’ve been on because they’re comparing what they have to what others have. The root of that is really a heart issue because we should learn to genuinely celebrate others. Nonetheless, I feel good! I am not constantly being bombarded with the good, the bad, the ugly. I am not submerged into everyone’s life through pictures and the constant jumble of what people are thinking. For me personally, this has been a good thing.

I have also been able to pursue things that I love! I’m blogging regularly, reading tons of books (fifteen this year so far and counting – goal is fifty), being present with my family and friends, becoming more creative in the work/projects I create for my students and writing more.

Is it only sunshine and rainbows? Do I miss it at all? Yes, I do! Here’s what’s been challenging:

  1. Some people only contact me through Facebook. This means I miss out on these interactions if I don’t have their numbers. A fellow twin mom wanted to have a play date but didn’t have my number, so we missed out on it. She has my number now, but it was a challenge at first.
  2.  I miss updates and seeing cute pictures of my friends kids. Since everything is on social media, most people don’t go around just showing off pics of their kids anymore. Facebook is typically the place they do that.
  3. Invites/E-Vites. A lot of my family functions happen through Facebook Invites. This means I get imprisoned in group messages.
  4. I miss the awesomeness of Instagram and the Instagrammers I follow are pretty rad.
  5. I miss sharing some of my life on the platform of social media.
  6. Everything and everyone is on social media.
  7. There are some groups I was a member of on Facebook.

Some of the things I LOVE about being off of social media are some of the very things I MISS. Oh, the irony. Nonetheless, I’m contemplating if I should try an entire year of no social media. Some people have even seemed slightly annoyed that I’m not on and have asked me about it. Yet, I think it might be really interesting to stay off until January 2017. Does this mean I’ll actually do it? Who knows!

As for our spending freeze, so far so good! EXCEPT, I did cave and buy a soda from Chick-Fil-A for $1.39. We had two calendar cards so we got our two free bowls of soup. And I added a soda. I still think we are doing fabulous though, so I’m not going to be too hard on myself! My husband did notice though. Let’s see how the rest of the month plays out!

 

5 thoughts on “A month and a half with no social media.

  1. journeyformybaby says:

    I’ve been off of Facebook too mostly this year. I’ve checked other peoples stuff a few times but not posting. Mostly I check every so often to see if there are any pm’s since that’s how we contact certain people. But every time I scroll through it I feel depressed. It’s actually because there is so much anger and sadness being posted. And conflict… I hate it. I don’t miss Facebook. I never had any other social media. I think I probably already told you all this lol. But anyways, your media fast inspires me because not many people are willing to do that anymore. It IS freeing. Personally, I think communication was better before so much social media. Though I do love reading blogs. 🙂

    • Tales of a Twin Mombie says:

      I deactivated my account so people can’t look me up or message me! It’s basically like you disappear lol. I do it for ME, not to punish anyone but because it’s less tempting for me to log on! I agree, there can be a lot of negatives that it can be a bit of a downer! I’m glad you’re feeling inspired! I want to see how long I can do it 🙂

  2. randomsqueaks says:

    I’m a social introvert. I love people and having friends but it’s hard for me to make friends and interact with them. Facebook takes away some of the stress of actually talking to a human being, so I’m able to connect with them, however briefly and superficially, without the drained, exhausted feeling I have after actually interacting with people.
    My Facebook is at least half groups and half people. The groups are such a great resource and I use them too frequently to want to quit. I just recently was able to get several responses to a question within an hour of posting, and all from moms only in my state. I also buy and sell a lot of baby clothes on Facebook. I can’t do an actual fast but I do want to cut down on how often I check it. It’s just so easy when I have five minutes when the kids play happily, and I really need those moments to zone out and take my brain off the semi-permanent 24/7 M and V station. Ugh. Such mixed feelings over here.

    • Tales of a Twin Mombie says:

      I know what you mean! This is why I have a love/hate relationship with social media. I know people who are introverts who are able to feel more comfortable on social media as well! You brought up great points, thanks for commenting!

  3. chavonnecrane says:

    I ditched FB the start of this year and I agree, I really do feel happier. It was becoming a distraction and frustration. Most of all a time waster. Now I scan the news more frequently. Instead of knowing how an acquaintance from college feels about the upcoming election I am informed about what is truly is going on with the campaign trail. Go figure!

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