I’m a new mom to twin boys and by no means an expert, but here are some of my tips to make it through without losing your sanity. I can happily say that I’m not only surviving, I feel like I’m thriving too. Yay. Share what helps you!
1. If you have to choose between sleep and…well, anything..always choose sleep!
Yep. This is essential for me. If I am sleep deprived, I am miserable, emotional, and much more prone to get sick, which isn’t good for anyone. So whenever I am giving the choice between doing something vs. sleeping, I almost always choose to sleep. Everything is better when I’ve caught up on my rest.
2. Don’t try to be little Suzie Homemaker.
It’s okay to be a little bit of a mess…or even a lot a bit of a mess! Don’t be a slave to housecleaning. This is a unique time in your life where you have a little ones the exact same age, going through the similar stages..it isn’t easy!! My two haven’t even started to walk yet and it’s typically chaos around here. I try to pick up for an hour after they go to sleep (from about 9-10) and than I read for a bit and hit the sack.
3. ASK FOR HELP!!
I went through a brief phase of stubbornness where I stopped asking for help and tried doing it all on my own. There was virtually no purpose as to why I did that. To prove something to myself? Maybe to feel like super mom? Well it worked for a bit, and than I completely lost my mind. Now I look at my husband’s schedule in advance and try to schedule help when he’s working when I can. If I can get help even twice a week, that’s an awesome thing. When I have help I can do the basic things – eat, shower, sleep, clean. I feel more human. Plus, BOTH boys get constant cuddle time which is great for both of them.
4. Get the HECK out of the house. I repeat, GET OUT.
Um, get out of the house. All of the things you have to do will still be there when you come back.Take a Target vacation. It works wonders. It does wonders to get out in society and to have adult interaction. I know it makes me feel human and happy. Plus, Target is just awesome. Let’s be real.
5. Go on a regular date night.
We try to do this twice a month…if you can even do once that’s great, but the more the better. For me and my husband it usually includes the typical dinner and a movie. For some reason it feels like we’re dating all over again. Even if the budget is tight, there are cheap things and even free things you can do just to be out and about.
6. Get your hurr, eyebrows, or nails did. Do something to pamper yourself.
Being on maternity leave, with twins and one income…I can only usually choose one of these. I always choose my eyebrows. I feel so much better when I don’t feel like I have two caterpillars nesting on my forehead.
7. Don’t try to compete with other moms.
Every mom is different, every lifestyle, every baby. I hate when mom’s seem like they’re in competition with one another…let’s all just be supportive of one another. We’re all rock stars.
8. Take off the robe, the yoga pants, and do your hair. Put a bra on too if you’re feeling fancy.
I’m basically preaching to myself. For awhile I was just rockin’ the robe, the sweats and all that. I’m not saying you should dress like you’re going to the Oscar’s in your own home, of course feel comfortable, but I find that I feel so much better when I actually get dressed. I feel good and ready to take on the day. For me personally, clothes make a big difference in how I feel. Especially when I have those unsolicited visitors (hello people – at least give me a warning)…A pair of jeans and a decent shirt goes a long way.
I could write more, and maybe I will in the future..but this is it for now. What are your survival tips?
I’m also happy to report that I’m feeling more at ease and like I’m finally in my own groove with my boys. I’m realizing that I CAN do it!! The boys are doing great and make my heart swell. Love them so much.