SLEEP THROUGH THE NIGHT BABIES..SLEEP. I beg you.

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Things were going swimmingly well. Until they were going swimmingly not well. The boys were really close to sleeping through the night. Josiah is pretty much ready to sleep through the night, I think if he weren’t sharing a room with Micah he would be sleeping through the night already. But Alas, my sweet little Micah Bear has decided he no longer wants to sleep through the night. He’s not really to blame though (is a baby ever?) We are.

Let me back up.

Since Micah came from the hospital we were swaddling him. We continued to swaddle him, so much so that I told my husband, “We need to buy a bigger swaddle, he’s growing out of this one.” Then, I decided to do some research. I found out that most babies shouldn’t be swaddled after two months. Um, major OOPS. What can I say? I’m a new mom and I had absolutely no idea. Swaddling is the key thing that has helped Micah sleep because of his sudden movements. They are so sudden and unpredictable and jerky that they scare him, he wakes up, and begins to cry. And cry, and cry, and cry. So this is completely our fault. It’s not really safe to swaddle him anymore either because he is officially a roller, so is Josiah! They can roll from their bellies to their backs. They are not quite rollie pollie ollie’s yet but are getting there. This means that if he were to roll on his stomach while swaddled, he could suffocate. I’m really glad we found out we shouldn’t be swaddling him anymore. Swaddling at this point can also interfere with their development and growth, since it’s really important for them to be able to move around at this stage and stretch their little limbs. Again, major OOPS. I felt stupid but I tried not to beat myself up too much. I’m new at this and don’t own a guidebook that tells me all the rules.

All I know is that I’m absolutely desperate to get some sleep, once again. What we’ve been doing to cope – hubby stays out in the living room with them while I sleep in our room. He does night duty from about 11-7 and than tags me in..I stay up with the babies while he sleeps until about 11 am. It’s rough but I keep saying, “This too shall pass.” Yesterday my hubby said it was  much easier…but he had to put Micah in the bouncer for some of the night. NOOOOOO. I DON’T WANT TO GO BACKWARDS. But I keep reminding myself, this is temporary.

The other thing is, Micah will sleep well on his stomach…but everything with SIDS scares me so once he falls asleep on his belly, we flip him over to his back. I can’t wait until they can sleep on their bellies!! This will make life easier for me. When I read about how other peoples babies sleep through the night, I want to say, “STOP RUBBING IT IN.” lol, just kidding. I’m happy for them. But wish it was me. Soon, I say, soon. My doctor said that it might take until six months. I feel like we can get there sooner. I hope so! What’s your current sleep situation? Or I should say, how are your little ones sleeping at this moment in time? Am I alone in this madness?!

17 thoughts on “SLEEP THROUGH THE NIGHT BABIES..SLEEP. I beg you.

  1. afamilyformcmanda says:

    my current sleep situation is your current sleep situation. minus one baby. each night i pray, please God, let us ALL sleep. nope. I would love a night of sleep. heck, i’d love 4 hours straight.
    this too shall pass. this too shall pass. this too shall pass.

    my sister in law and i have decided that children that don’t sleep are super duper intelligent. amen.

    • roadtofertility says:

      I’m really glad to know that I’m not alone in this! Not that I want everyone’s baby to be awake lol but for some reason it just makes me feel better. I know I will see sleep again probably when they are in college! Lol. We have some amazingly smart babies huh?

  2. journeyformybaby says:

    Tru usually goes to bed around 9-10pm and gets up at 3-4:30am to nurse then sleeps until around 7-8 and i nurse him again and try to make him sleep a little longer bc i have awful insomnia and don’t fall asleep until 1am myself a lot. its definitely doable now. i can’t imagine what having 2 get up all night must b like!!!

  3. futuresoccermom says:

    Hi! As a fellow twin mom, I feel you completely on the sleep issue. My babies have just gone through the 4 month sleep regression, especially DD, and it was hell. Still isn’t perfect, but they are both “sleeping through the night”. Here’s the “magic formula”:

    1)first of all – I guess I’m doing something wrong, but I did not know about not swaddling your babies. Mine have been swaddled since day 1 and they still get swaddled now, at 22 weeks old. We do use the big size and DS, at 19 pounds, has almost grown out of it. So, we’re starting to leave one arm out for naps to transition him. But DD still fits fine, and we swear by them. Absolutely. So I’m not sure if I’m doing a bad thing or not but they seem developmentally fine otherwise. As far as I had known, you could swaddle your baby until they either grow out of it or can roll from back to stomach. My babies have rolled from stomach to back during tummy time, but not consistently. But not from back to stomach. Also, though, I’m breaking more rules – they are both still in the rock n plays. No cribs yet. And DD uses her pacifier. I have made an executive decision not to change anything up right now, as they finish their sleep regressions. However, around 6 months, I plan to sleep train, and then will ditch the swaddles and move them to the cribs. But right now, they still work.

    2) As for how they are sleeping through the night…well DS doesn’t really count. He’s a giant baby and he sleeps well and always has. So take him out of the picture. DD has been an absolutely NIGHTMARE and I have (temporarily, I’m sure) figured her out. Basically, there are two secrets. Secret #1 – figure out how much food she can possibly take in, and try to get her to eat as much of it during the day as possible. I have added an ounce to a few of her meals, and she now takes 5 ounces at bedtime (which is 6:30, by the way), and another 5 ounces at her dream feed at 11:00 – and she continues to sleep straight until 7:00 am the next morning. Her feeds all day are as large as she’ll comfortably take them as well. So that’s my first secret. Second, make sure your babies’ total wake times (TWT) are appropriate for their age. So my DD was waking up constantly, all night long. Fussy, stirring, just yuck. And would scream for only me (that part was the regression talking too). Well, I finally charted her exact sleep patterns all day, and I realized that she was only awake during the day for about 6-7 hours. For a 5 month old (even one born 5 weeks early) that was not enough awake time during her day. So she was actually undertired, and was waking all night because she wasn’t that sleepy. Now, I’m pushing her wake times between each nap to around 2 hours each time, for a total of 8.5-9 hours of awake time before she goes to bed. So far, figuring this out has caused her to stir at night much less often, and I usually only have to go up there once or twice.

    So I have no idea what I’m doing either, and my large baby is still in a rock n play for pete’s sake, but they are sleeping through the night right now, 6:30-6:30 or even 7:00, with no wake ups. I upped the calories during the day and also upped the total wake time.

    If you want more info about any of that, let me know and I can steer you in the right direction!

    But anyway- you are doing a GREAT job! Be proud of your two beautiful boys!

    • roadtofertility says:

      Thanks girl! I probably could have gotten away with swaddling him for A bit more because he does not roll from his back to his stomach yet, but now that we have started to break him out of it I’m afraid to go back. I did order him a recommended sleeps it, that is supposed to soften his reflexes so that he can sleep better! Hopefully that will work for us. If not I may just have to go back to swaddling until you can roll from his back to his stomach. He is not sleeping well which means we are not sleeping well and I feel bad for him because you can tell he is very tired. We had his brother in the rock and play for a really long time, we moved out of it about a month ago and he has done surprisingly well sleeping in his crib. We put something under his neck so that he is a little bit elevated. It’s under the sheet so that he can’t suffocate. It’s really hard when one is ready to sleep in the night and the other isn’t, it’s such a tease! As for the wake time, he does a pretty good job of staying awake during the day – that’s why it’s so frustrating ! Thanks so much for your tips, I am definitely open to anything that can help!

  4. gatorgrl2 says:

    My daughter woke several times a night until we put her in our bed . I was desperate for sleep. She was over one.. It helped. She slept through or would just yell out and go back to sleep with a back rub. We have her in her own room now and it has gone back to waking up every night where if someone doesn’t go in, she comes to us. Some kids just don’t sleep well.. They say its developmental. Breastfed babies wake more than formula fed babies too. My two month old wakes every 3 hours to eat but that is to be expected.

    • roadtofertility says:

      Micah is my formula fed baby, Josiah gets formula at night too. I think if he were older (like your one year old) and sleeping in our bed helped I would definitely do it, at least for short period of time. That’s how desperate we are to get sleep. It would probably be all four of us in bed because I would feel bad leaving his brother in the nursery LOL.

  5. Theresa says:

    Try a Merlin Magic sleep suit. They don’t call it magic for nothing! It helps transition from swaddle to no swaddle, allows movement but dulls the jerkiness when they wake up.

  6. Bree @ ThoughtProvokingMoments says:

    I ended up losing the swaddle altogether pretty soon after bringing my triplets home from the NICU. Reason being – I have a bunch of Houdinis on my hands. 🙁 Acckkk!! No joke, we swaddle, they miraculously maneuvered their way out. I finally threw in the towel and said to hell with it. Initially we were in shifts due to feeding schedules so it was easy to keep an eye on them and put them on their tummies – which also helped with the severe reflux we’ve battled with. After having started that trend….we were able to get them to sleep at night fairly quickly. Not without a hiccup here and there, but nothing is always easy all the time.

    Having said that, I didn’t go with the magic suit or even a bigger swaddle…I live in a ridiculously hot climate and my kids put off some major body heat. I was afraid of overheating them, so at the suggestion of a dear friend, I ended up going with Snuza monitors which clip to the diaper band and detect breathing and movement. If it doesn’t sense any after 15 seconds its pulsates to stimulate the baby. If nothing still, it pulsates again and sets off a screechingly loud alarm. I felt really relaxed and never looked back. I even (God-forbid I am going to be called a bad parent from now on..) let them sleep on their tummies from time to time. For me it was the tummy and peace, or the back and aspiration from the really bad reflux. I chose what was best for me & what was working for my children.

    Of course we still dealt with the startle reflex quite a bit, but found that placing them either on their sides or on the tummy for a bit minimized that. I get the whole SIDS scare and do take it very seriously. I watched my boys like a hawk the first 4 months. Now, I just have a camera on each crib and two monitor/sensors in two corners of the nursery to give me a complete view at all times. While it may be a bit overboard, my point is this….I STILL watch them, and they roll on their own. My kids are full-blown belly sleepers now, Hell they won’t sleep UNLESS they’re on their bellies. LoL 😉

    You will get what works/worked for everyone on here. But try not to lose yourself in each of our miracles and by all means don’t go broke doing so. Find your comfort zone, do what works for your babies and feel assured in knowing that you’re not doing ANYTHING wrong. Swaddling, belly sleeping, or not. There are so many tried and true solutions that you just have to remember one thing… your babies march to the beat of their own drum. If what worked was swaddling, but now he’s rolling….try a swing or a rocker that “hugs” the baby. try rolling up blankets and “wedging” the baby for a bit until he hits REM sleep. IDK, just some ideas that won’t break the bank…. 😉

    One last thing… is it possible that he’s startling or waking from reflux? Mine did just that. They would startle and reflux together. So after a while, I figured one was impacting the other and started spacing out the feed (adding a tad-bit more to the last feed before sleep and pushing the next feed back a half hour, sleeping them with a slight elevation (a neatly folded towel under the head), and repositioned them to semi-side lying.

    Either way, hang in there. It’ll all get easier really soon! 🙂

    Hugs,
    Bree

  7. roadtofertility says:

    Thanks girl! I ordered a larger sleep sack, I tried the Merlin Magic Suit and it didn’t make a difference for my boys unfortunately 🙁 I’m pretty sure Josiah would be able to sleep on his tummy, Micah hates it..he does at times but it’s not his number one choice. But Maybe Josiah!! He adores it. I checked out that Snuza thing on Amazon, I might have to add it to my wish list for when I go back to work !! It got really good reviews and sounds like a good idea to give me peace of mind, especially since I’m a big worrier. The day these boys sleep through the night will be such a sweet day. Right now they wake up 1-2 times to eat. Hopefully when I thicken their bottles that will help them to feel more full and also with the reflux! Thanks for all of your encouragement and suggestions..means the world!!! <3

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